Competitive Child or Uncompetitive Child (2) – Pros and Cons

Pros and cons of competition

This is the second part about pros and cons of competition in children’s life . Before reading on you might like to read the Part 1.

In the name of ‘Life’ being a Competition, to strengthen us to face the challenges ahead we were introduced to healthy competition in childhood. But in the naïve innocence or ignorance, whatever we call it, we crossed the vague line and became addicted to it, eventually harming ourselves. Nevertheless, now understanding that life is not a competition, we are participants of race of life only if we want to be.

Shouldn’t we question the effectiveness of competition before making it a vital part of our children’s life?

Don’t we consider the pros and cons of the products before purchasing them for our children?

Then, how can we forget to weigh ‘competition’, something they are meant to live with?

So, it’s time to investigate the allegations used to support or oppose the childhood competitions in society.

Let us first bring the positives or the pros in the limelight-

  • Provides motivation to children to perform and excel.
  • Helps children to become better team player.
  • Prepares children to accept failure gracefully.
  • Encourages children to develop skills, thus, leading to self-improvement.
  • Doesn’t allow competitors to become complacent or overly-satisfied.
  • Helps in disciplining children.

But the matter-of-fact is conditions do apply: Competition should be healthy i.e. Competitors shouldn’t be overly competitive.

Don’t you think the additional condition is not only hard but impossible to fulfill? Can we keep an eye on every competition and competitor our children will face in life?

Nope, not at all.

Parents are asked to teach children to compete in healthy manner. Seriously, Is it so easy to make a kid understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy competition, the one who cannot even understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy food. Isn’t it too much to ask for?

Being-positive doesn't mean ignoring the negative. Its means overcoming the negative

Aren’t we being too positive? Isn’t it too much of a good expectation?

Something which is plainly not possible practically, but because it seemed to be ideal conceptually, we embraced it with a favorable and satisfying name.

Please recall. A stone remains a stone no matter how beautifully it is wrapped. A number of factors such as ingredients, cooking procedure, ambience, cook’s enthusiasm and energy contribute to make a dish ‘healthy’.

Therefore, ‘Competition’ has actually become an over-the- counter medicine freely sold and taken, not only without reflecting on possible side effects or contraindications but also without any dosage indication.

Hence, let us now determine any detrimental side-effects of ‘competition’ before forcibly medicating our children:

  • Learning is hindered.
  • Makes children stressful, anxious and fearful, thus affecting their physical well being also.
  • Makes children dependent on rewards, appreciation, etc. i.e. external motivation, thereby suppressing internal motivation.
  • Creates a tendency for feelings of jealousy, superiority, inferiority and grudge by comparing constantly.
  • Makes children egoistic, self-centered and thus harms human society.
  • Last but not the least, constantly competing leads to an addiction, entering every sphere of an individual’s life.

The cons definitely seem to interfere with the effectiveness of competition i.e. the degree to which it is successful in producing desired result. Hence, unquestionably, the cons of competition outweigh the pros.

Nothing in this world is free. Everything comes with a priceYou see nothing in this world is available for free. We have to pay for everything.

Just using the word competition which seemed to spur our children so easily to achieve short term goals actually causes long term damage to them.

What do you think: Should we ignore all this and force them to compete still? Do we really don’t have any other option? Or, Is it just out of convenience we are using competition as a motivator?

Shouldn’t we give some extra time and energy to ferret out something more favorable for our children instead of competition?

Let us further see how children are getting harmed in the next post, so that no doubt lingers.

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